Sorry I am not wearing lipstick!
Just yesterday I was speaking with an old friend of mine. She looked gorgeous, fit, beautiful make up and outstanding clothes. I was captivated by her red lipstick and red manicure. I want to be feminine in this way too, I was thinking when I looked at her! After a while during the conversation I noticed something was missing...That was: Presence!
Are you tired of portraying an image in front of the others that is not you?
When you are aware of your external beauty and you are not aware of your Presence on a deeper level, you are missing something vital! You are projecting an image of yourself and ...that it is NOT who you are, really!
That is why if a woman does not embody presence is NOT attractive : despite the quantity of makeup, beautiful clothes, gorgeous smile.
Times are changing...if women want to earn the same money as men, they do not have to project an image, often fake, of themselves. They have to be REAL! What is to be real ? Being Real means to have acknowledged your qualities as well as your limitations and owning them!
Read what Jung wrote about our "shadow" :
"In Jungian psychology, the shadow or 'shadow aspect' may refer to an unconscious aspect of the personality which the conscious ego does not identify in itself. Because one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspects of one's personality, the shadow is largely negative, or the entirety of the unconscious, i.e., everything of which a person is not fully conscious. There are, however, positive aspects which may also remain hidden in one's shadow (especially in people with low self-esteem).Contrary to a Freudian definition of shadow, therefore, the Jungian shadow can include everything outside the light of consciousness, and may be positive or negative. 'Everyone carries a shadow,' Jung wrote, "and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is."
Sometimes you "pretend" to be who you are not and it is this lack of congruency which makes you projecting a Persona that does not belong to you and this is when you Do Not have Presence...
As you know you are continuously transforming therefore you can develop by unleashing your own genie in a bottle, embracing your abilities and see past your outdated, limited definition of yourself!
This process will give you Presence.
Train yourself to be present more and more!
Are you aware that out there there are thousands of people who WANT your Presence, again I am not talking only about outer appearance.
Stop projecting on the outside an image of yourself which is not the real one!
You can be present with or without a red lipstick!
Bye for now ... Get back to you soon!